…that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word… Eph 5:26
The husbands relationship and duties to his wife are analogous to Jesus and His relationship to the church, according to the writings of Paul in Ephesians.
One of the responsibilities of the husband is sanctification of his family.
This will usually start with the wife, since most of the time he will marry her before they start a family.
Sanctify means to set aside, make holy, or consecrate.
So how do you sanctify your wife?
First, you must know Jesus as Savior. There is no other way to begin. It is written the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; 1 Cor 7:14
It is only possible that a believer can sanctify another.
The command from God to “Be holy, for I am holy” is given four times – Leviticus 11:44, 45; Leviticus 20:7; 1 Peter 1:16
To set another aside to be holy, you must set yourself aside first!
The truth brings sanctification. Jesus said, “Sanctify them by Your truth.” John 17:17
He who speaks truth declares righteousness, Prov 12:17
Speaking the truth to your spouse will lead to sanctification. Lies can only lead to deceit, mistrust, and conflict.
Jesus also said, “Your word is truth.” John 17:17 As a Christian I believe that God’s word is the truth. To read it, speak it, and live it is a sanctifying move.
I once knew a minister that sang big praise to God in public but in private he would cuss and say the most awful things to his wife.
This did not sanctify her; this pushed her away from him and from HIM.
If you want to sanctify your wife, children, and home, then you must quit speaking curses and negativity. You must speak blessing over your wife, children, and home.
Since sanctification involves the idea “to make holy” then the influences allowed into the home are a big factor.
You know very well the unholiness that can come from TV, radio, and print. Now that is extended to the Internet and video games.
The most difficult part would be a cleansing of your home. We tend to hold on to that which is not holy!