In my years of ministry I’ve had to counsel with many couples. I’ve listened to the husband talk about his wife like she’s not sitting right there with us.
Then the wife will do the same.
I know that many couples are irritated by each other.
Irritate is defined as 1) make (someone) annoyed, impatient, or angry.
2) Cause inflammation or other discomfort in (a part of the body).
A grain of sand in your eye would be irritating. Leave it and your eye will become infected and eventually loss of vision.
The same grain of sand in an oyster will also be an irritant. But the grain of sand in the oyster will cause irritation, secretion, which will create one of the most beautiful and sought after gems – a pearl.
Now the sand did not cause the eye to lose vision or the oyster to make a pearl. The sand is simply an irritant that reveals the inner properties of the eye or the oyster.
To justify this – does a pearl pop out of your eye each time you get a grain of sand in it? NO!
If you take a rose and step on it the aroma of the rose will saturate the air.
Did your stepping on the rose create the aroma? No, the pressure of your foot simply revealed the inner properties of the rose – the aroma.
Now when another person irritates you, like your spouse, does that irritation cause you to be angry? Does it cause you to say hurtful things?
No, it simply reveals an inner property of you that is already there.
What you need to do is take that irritation and make a pearl!
How is this done?
Only one way – LOVE!
This is what the Bible says; Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 1 Cor 13:4-5
Did you get that part? Love is not irritable.
Love does not keep records of wrong.
Love just loves!
Think about this, Jesus said, “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful pearls…” Matt 13:45
You are an irritant to God but He will make a pearl out of you!
So next time someone irritates you become the best part of it – the pearl!